[Magda] Previously on Before the 90 Days...
-She is the one. -[all exclaiming]
[Niles] I'm confident Matilda and I are meant to spend
the rest of our lives together.
You know, the night isn't over yet.
[chuckles]
But first, we have some husband and wife business to attend to.
Hey, hey. [laughing]
This is absolute dream come true for me.
But we don't really know how long it will take
for Adnan to get his visa.
How am I gonna do this alone?
[Sunny speaking]
[Veah laughing]
Yes. Put the ring on my finger. [laughs]
-Are you serious? -[Veah] Yes. Yes.
I think we should tell your dad.
[Sunny] Are you serious?
I know my dad is going to get crazy and mad.
This could ruin my relationship with my father.
[Vanja] Josko decided to come visit me
in Orlando for ten days.
This kitchen has never been this sexy.
He has been saying that he would love to move here.
That's why what happened next
could not have been more shocking.
[Sanela speaking]
[Vanja speaking]
[Joe] One thing I... I need to talk to you about,
one of my really good friends.
We dated for a short time.
You lied to me again!
I ask you if you had some past with your friends,
and you said no.
He promised me
he will never lie and hide anything,
and he did.
I shouldn't have hid it from you. I shouldn't have waited.
-I get it. No, I understand it. -No! You don't get it!
I will [bleep] take her eyes and your, too,
and [bleep] eat them!
I try my best from the beginning
with all of it, but I have enough.
[Niles] How does it feel to be Mrs. Valentine?
[Matilda] I feel good. [kisses]
I enjoyed last night, ah!
Ooh, man.
[Matilda speaking]
Yeah.
What's that?
-Another round? -Yes.
[Niles] Oh, definitely.
Let's... let's go!
[Matilda giggling]
[Niles] We definitely had some pent up
desires to work through.
[Matilda laughs]
[moans]
[Niles] I'm glad we waited.
You know what they say, forbidden fruit's always sweetest.
But whatever you do, do not shine
a black light in that room.
[chuckles]
Where are we going exactly?
[Matilda speaking]
Tomorrow, Niles is flying back to America.
Hello.
[in other language]
[Matilda in other language]
[in English]
[man in English]
-[Matilda] This is a good surprise. -Yes.
[traditional music playing]
[Matilda] Dancing is a big part of our culture,
so I need to show this boy
our African dance.
[music continues]
-[Matilda speaking] -I'm o-- I'm very okay.
-[Niles] It's very surprising. -[Matilda laughs]
[man singing in other language]
[Niles] I am not gonna lie,
I never really learned to dance,
or how to get rhythm.
And normally, an environment
with all this noise, it would be too much for me.
[Matilda speaking]
[Niles speaking]
But for her,
I want to learn how to manage the things that trigger me,
and I do want to participate in what she likes to do.
I could've probably loosened my hips up a little bit more,
but, hey, you know what?
Not bad for my first time.
[humming and laughing]
Bye! [laughs]
-Did you like it? -I loved it.
[Matilda speaking]
-So, babe. -[Niles] Mm-hmm?
[Matilda speaking]
[Niles] Well, I'm gonna be starting another job,
like, um, within two weeks
of me getting back to the States.
-Mm-hmm. -[Niles] And we'll be able to make a plan from there.
Yesterday, in one of the jobs that I had previously interviewed,
well, they notified me that I had gotten the job.
It's very similar to my previous job as a peer advocate.
I am so relieved,
but when I start my new job,
I'm gonna have to start pinching my pennies
so I can cover all the expenses
of bringing Matilda to America.
[Matilda] I'm very happy about that, but...
[Niles] Well, actually, they gave me no reason at all.
They just said that they no longer require my services.
[Matilda speaking]
Well, in Alabama,
it's an at-will employment state.
They can fire you for any reason
or no reason at all.
[Niles] I'm positive.
[Matilda] Niles is telling me that he has no reason about losing his job.
That doesn't make any sense to me.
And because Niles lied to me a few times before,
I don't know if he's telling me the truth.
It really worries me
because I have to be able to trust my husband.
Sometimes, you'll be lying to me.
You don't tell me the truth.
-Why were you lying to me? -Because I was afraid, okay?
Afraid that if I--
No.
So, now what were you afraid of?
I was afraid that you would...
you would say that I'm not...
that I'm not man enough, that I'm not strong enough.
And at that point, I didn't have a job.
I didn't think you could... you could deal
with my issues, you know that?
I didn't know-- I didn't think you could understand my issues.
And from today going,
I don't want you to hide anything from me.
Whether it's good or bad,
you could tell me.
Okay.
I know what I have...
I... I know what I have to do as the person that I am.
I've never wanted to give Matilda a reason to doubt our relationship,
but I've used masking for a lot of my life. So...
[sighs] it... it won't be easy for me
to let go of that defense mechanism,
but I will do everything in my power
to make her feel confident in me
and appreciated in this relationship
because she deserves only the best.
[men singing in other language]
[Sunny] Okay.
[gasps]
Well, hopefully, your dad wants to share,
because I really want some.
-Veah. -[Veah] What?
[Sunny] That's what are you wearing today to going to see my dad?
Yes.
[Sunny] It's too tight on you,
and your tummy is also showing, Veah.
Come on.
[Veah] Okay, well, if you don't like my tummy showing
for your dad, I understand, and I will fix that.
[Sunny] It's our last day together,
and Veah want to apologize to my father.
She's bringing cake for a peace offering.
[Veah] There we are.
This'll work.
This is important to her to share our engagement news,
but I'm extremely nervous.
If my father doesn't accepted Veah,
I don't know what is gonna happen
to me and my father relationship.
[Veah] I know this is hard for you,
and thank you, I appreciate you a lot.
Do you wanna carry the cake?
Let's go.
[Veah] I'm just thinking that if we give Sunny's dad a cake,
he will accept my apology for walking out.
I mean, if I was gonna eat cake,
I'm not gonna be mad at somebody.
Especially if it's chocolate cake.
Chocolate actually puts dopamine in your brain, so...
[chuckles softly] it puts the "feel-goods" in your brain,
so how could you be mad?
♪♪ Whoa ♪
♪♪ Welcome to the real world ♪
♪♪ Life, it isn't fair ♪
♪♪ Welcome to the real world♪
♪♪ Grow yourself a pair ♪
[Sunny speaking]
[groans softly]
[waiter speaking]
[Veah] Hello.
Thank you.
[clanking]
[Veah] Oh, no.
[Sunny] This is a bad signal.
I'm nervous.
[Veah] I'm feeling a bit nervous, too.
I'm really just hoping for the best.
But I'm starting to feel like maybe this isn't gonna go good,
maybe this wasn't a good idea,
maybe we should have waited,
maybe I should've listened to Sunny.
I was just starting to second-guess everything.
[in other language]
[Sunny in other language]
-[in English] -[Veah] Hi.
[Veah] I'm good.
[Sunny in English]
-[Veah] We brought you cake. -[Shahin] Cake?
Okay.
[Sunny] So, Papa, she wanted to apologize to you for everything last time.
But she should talk, not you.
Um, I just wanted to say sorry for just walking out that day,
and I wanted to explain to you that it wasn't your fault.
But my religion, I felt like,
was being attacked, my tattoos,
so I don't know, I just felt, like...
uncomfortable.
I just needed to, like, clear my head,
for, like, my mental health.
Do you know what anxiety is?
I'm not sure, but I'm not happy for that.
Can you tell me that?
[Veah] Like, I didn't plan on for it to happen,
so I don't think it's gonna happen again.
But it's not like I could just be like,
"Oh, turn off my anxiety."
Yeah. [sighs]
[Veah] It's too late?
-[Shahin] Mm-hmm. -[Veah] For what?
-To apologize? -[Shahin] Mm-hmm.
I feel so bad when you left.
I was so disappointed
because it's the first meeting.
First meeting is supposed to be talk to me.
So, Sunny?
Yeah, Dad?
You should forgive her, what she done.
Like, she's different, you know?
She doesn't know how our culture works,
but she's doing her best.
And she make me to feel like we have a bonding together.
We just want, like, a successful relationship,
and we want the...
You know, like, I really would want
his family to accept our relationship.
I want you to accept our relationship.
[cracking fingers]
[sighs]
Okay.
[Sunny] Mm-hmm.
-I know, but we can work-- -[Shahin speaking]
Well, if we ended up getting married...
we would-- He would come to America.
Okay, there is something I did.
-Father, I wanna tell you. -[Shahin] What you did?
Tell me.
[Sunny] Let's not hide anything.
I don't wanna hide any more anything.
You guys going to get married?
Eventually, yes.
[Shahin] Mm-mmm.
No, I don't think so.
[Joe] I definitely hurt Magda last night.
She was not happy about the Jill situation.
I hate that I hid it from her, and...
at this point, I really don't even know where this relationship stands,
if she still wants to be with me.
-[Sanela] Oh, my God, where... where do we start? -[sighs]
We were planning our future together.
You know, obviously, he had to go back home,
and then, all of a sudden, I get a text message,
"I don't think I can be with you."
♪♪ My heart is on fire ♪
♪♪ But the rain Will cool it down ♪
♪♪ And life rearranging ♪
♪♪ Nothing can stop me now ♪
[Joe sighs]
[in other language]
Good morning, sunshine.
How'd you sleep?
[in English]
[Joe] I definitely hurt Magda last night.
She was not happy the entire night.
I just felt like I needed to tell her,
obviously, before I left here
about the Jill situation.
It's hard to explain it
'cause Jill's very close to me as a person that I care about.
I always look out for her and have been friends with her
way over a decade.
But I hate that I hid it from her, and...
at this point, I really don't even know where this relationship stands,
if she still wants to be with me.
I just hope, like... [clears throat]
she gives me one more chance
because I do care about her,
like, I wanna spend the future with her.
I just wanna have her realize that.
-Hi. -Hi.
-Do you wanna have a talk? -[Magda clears throat]
Sure.
Okay.
[Magda speaking]
Joey broke my trust again,
and I don't know if this relationship is gonna work.
[Joe] Okay.
I just wanna say I'm very sorry
for hiding the Jill thing from you.
But I hope there's a little part of you
that understands it was such a long time ago
and we were friends for so much longer
than the amount of time we dated.
And I'm not trying to pursue her romantically in any way,
we've been friends for 15 years.
We've been through a lot of things together,
so I don't want you to view it as a threat.
[Magda] Listen, I will not judge you about your past,
but it's again the situation, you lied to me,
and you hide something from me.
How I supposed to want to building a future with you
when you lie to me all the time?
I ask you if you had some past with your friends,
and you said no.
[Joe] I understand you're mad about the lying part.
It was a bad judgment call.
I'm not hiding anything else.
Like, I love you. I wanna spend my life with you.
I really don't wanna lose you, Magda.
I'm sorry.
[Magda] Okay.
I love you, too. I want to be with you.
So just, you have to give me just a little time
to trust you again.
But I don't want to find out
you will spend time with her face to face.
For now, I am not ready for that, to trust you.
You can still have contact with her on the phone.
I appreciate you at least, you know, letting me
stay in contact with her. I know it's not easy.
And you don't have to worry about anything, like, romantic
or anything else developing, 'cause it's not like that.
Maybe I were overreacting a little yesterday.
I just was too much angry.
But I see in his eyes, he really sorry to me,
and he really realized how much he hurt me again.
[Joe] Sorry, I was an asshole.
And to make it a little better,
I got you something that matches your nails.
Thank you.
-Do you like it? -[Magda] Mm-hmm.
[Joe] I felt horrible about last night,
so this morning,
I decided to go out and get Magda a gift.
I hope she realizes
how important she is to me and how sorry I am.
[Magda speaking]
[Joe] Sure.
Whoa. Comin' in hot.
This fight made me realize
how much I really do want Magda in my life
and how much it would hurt me if I lost her.
So, I'm very relieved right now,
'cause I never wanna feel that again.
Is that nice?
Yeah.
I love you. I'm sorry.
I love you, too.
I don't want to fight with you.
But just don't do that again, okay?
Okay.
[Joe] I won't.
Are you sure?
[chuckles] Yes, I'm sure.
[voice shaking]
-[Sanela] Oh, my God, where... where do we start? -[sighs]
-[Vanja chuckles] -How?
[Vanja in normal voice] I don't even freaking know.
Freaking hot here.
It was... I mean, he came over.
We had so much fun.
We were, like, sitting there, planning our future together.
And then, you know, obviously, he had to go back home.
And then, you know, all you have when you have
a long-distance relationship is the phone calls.
So, we had our little morning and... and evening calls,
and... and then, all of a sudden,
he started not calling me in the evening.
You know, I called him, and I said,
"Well, I would really appreciate it
if we could, you know, have consistency
in our communication going forward."
And then... Get this.
He goes... [scoffs]
He goes, "You're... you're being needy.
And I don't like this."
Click. And he hung up on me.
So, I'm thinking, "Okay, he's gonna call me back.
He's gonna apologize."
He doesn't.
Finally, five days later...
Five days?
[Vanja] Five days we haven't talked.
I get a text message,
and, um, he's like, "Hey, can we talk?"
And then he goes into this whole thing,
like, he said, "You know,
I don't think I can be with you
because you obviously don't have motherly instincts,
and... and I have a child."
The fact that Josko broke it off with me
just a few weeks after his trip
came as a complete shock.
And I thought, because we formed this incredible connection,
that he would call me the next day apologizing,
but I haven't heard from him since.
How could he judge you like that?
He has never seen you with his child.
[Vanja] The only thing I can think of is, when he was here,
you know, I was asking, "What are your fears about a relationship?"
And I told him mine, and I was honest with him.
I told him that I've spent the last who knows how many years
building this life for me.
I never thought that there was gonna be a child
that I would have to take care of.
Um, so...
And I told him this. You know, I said,
"This is gonna have to be a mind switch for me
that happens over time."
When Josko was visiting me here in Orlando,
I did voice my concerns to him
about how different my life would be,
how much of a change I would have to make
in order to fit motherhood in.
In the moment, I felt like he heard me,
and he understood me, and he supported me.
Now, looking back,
maybe this is what potentially set him off,
got him scared.
But I do feel like it's unfair.
Because, if I had a chance to meet Josko's child,
I would have fallen in love with him.
And knowing who I am,
and... and how loving I am,
and how much love I have to give,
um, he should have known that about me.
[Sanela] I'm very disappointed in him, and I'm just speechless.
You didn't do anything wrong, you were only kind to him.
[Vanja] I know.
But at the same time, I still miss him.
You know, when I think about all the good stuff
and all the good times,
it's... it's hard to just forget that
because this was something
that... that was so fulfilling for me.
Yeah.
[Vanja] And... and the fact that... that, you know,
we were even intimate and everything,
I mean, that's just...
That makes this whole thing even so much [bleep] worse.
And I... I can't stop thinking about him.
You know, I have my trip coming up to Croatia again,
which... The whole plan was for me to spend the entire trip with him,
getting to know him, and the family,
and the kid, and everything.
Maybe I should reach out.
Try to, you know, like, have a conversation face to face, and see if there's anything
that can be salvaged from this.
I don't know. I don't know what the right answer is yet.
[Sanela] I don't know either,
but let's say, it works out again with you guys.
Do you really wanna deal with those emotions?
-It's like from hot to cold. -Yeah.
I just don't want everything to happen
the same way it happened with Bozo,
where you come, and he's just, like, ice cold
-and just being weird. -Yeah.
Before all of this fell apart,
I had booked a trip to Croatia to visit Josko again.
But I don't know if I should just cancel my ticket
or try to figure things out between us.
As much as I am angry at this point by what he did...
I'm just not ready to just walk away from him.
But I have no idea what's on Josko's mind right now.
I really hope that he can see the potential that I can see for the two of us,
and that he's not holding on
to this impression that he has that's obviously not true.
Maybe if we talk to him, maybe things are gonna change.
But I hope that we can try to get over this
because, I mean, it's hard not to miss
-a connection so strong. -Yeah.
[Tigerlily] He's given power of attorney to his brother.
But I don't want the brother having access to my assets.
Adnan keeps doing shady things.
I don't know what's going to happen.
And...
And it's scary.
I shouldn't have to protect myself
from my husband.
You shouldn't have to, but you need to.
[man] Here's your tacos.
[Cruz] It's been a minute since I had a swing.
[Shay speaking]
Hi!
-What's up? -[Tigerlily] How are my two favorite swingers?
[laughs]
-Oh, my gosh. -[chuckling]
-Hi, babe. -What's up, babe?
[Tigerlily] Hi.
[all chuckling]
You look so cute.
-Your little baby bump. -Thank you. Thank you.
Oh, my gosh, everything's been happening so fast.
It has. Yeah.
I am in my second trimester in my pregnancy.
When I first found out that I was pregnant,
I wanted to tell Adnan right away in person,
so I booked a flight
and went to go surprise him
with a necklace
that I said, "Baby."
[chuckling] Okay, let's go.
And it has, like, a name.
[chuckles]
-[gasps] -[chuckles]
[Adnan speaking]
[Tigerlily] I know, baby. You're gonna be a father, honey.
I'm so happy. Of course I'm happy, baby.
[chuckling]
This is the best gift in all the world.
[Shay] So how are you feeling?
Are you having cravings,
like pickles or anything crazy?
-Ice cream and pickles? -[chuckling] Yeah.
No, mmm-mmm. I'm just obsessed
-with, like, smells -[Shay] Okay.
Like, I want to smell everything.
I want to wear, like, a hundred perfumes--
-How are y'all doing? -[Tigerlily] Hi.
-Hey, are you looking for a swing set today? -[Cruz] Yes.
Any kind of spatial restrictions
-that you're dealing with or... -[Tigerlily] No,
we have, like, tons of open land.
So I thought we could, you know, like, look around
and see what I should get for the kids.
[Glenn] Okay, so if y'all wanna make yourselves at home, look around,
everything's set up so y'all can play on it,
swing on it, slide on it.
Um, I'll get you a catalog before you leave,
so you're set up with everything.
-Okay? -[Cruz and Tigerlily] Thank you.
-Check this out over here. -Okay. Okay.
Since Adnan and I have gotten pregnant,
we bought a cabin,
but it needs remodeling before we can move in.
Meanwhile, the kids and I are living out of hotels
because my lease ended at my apartment.
[Cruz] I like that one.
-The spirally one? -That spiral one
-looks pretty good. -Yeah.
Adnan has his visa interview appointment scheduled,
so that's good news.
Babe! Ahh!
[Tigerlily] But it's hard to be excited...
because things aren't exactly going the best
with Adnan and I right now.
-[Shay] I'm a little dizzy. -This one is, like, not comfy.
-[Cruz] You get in the middle. -[Shay] Okay.
How is Adnan doing?
[Tigerlily] He's excited.
-Yeah? -[Tigerlily] I mean, his interview is soon,
but I don't know if it's because
it's Ramadan and he's just sassy,
so it's, like, making him hangry,
but we are literally, like, getting into an argument...
every, like, other day.
-[Cruz and Shay] Wow. -Like, it's a lot. It's intense.
You guys don't know this yet,
but he wants to keep his apartment in Jordan.
If you're moving here, why do you want to keep it?
Is that, like, a safety net or...?
-That doesn't make any sense. -That just makes no sense.
[Tigerlily] No.
In Jordan, what caught me off guard was that
he said that he has lived other places.
And he's always came back to Jordan
because of his friends, his family.
Exactly, and, like, that's not okay with me.
I need to know that he is all in.
-I mean, you've been all in. -[Tigerlily] Right.
There's an even bigger issue.
And it's...
It's more concerning.
He went to make his brother, Thaer, power of attorney
He's basically making his brother act as him for anything.
Wow.
The brother could essentially take out a loan
in my husband's name, and that...
-[Shay] That affects you. -...that affects me.
I don't want the brother having access to my things.
-[Shay] Line of credit. -[Tigerlily] My assets, things that I have...
-you know? -[Cruz] That's crazy.
You know, he could literally just go get a bank account,
switch everything, and then leave...
right now.
Adnan keeps doing shady things,
and he's been making these decisions
without getting my input at all.
I don't think that Adnan is trying to do anything nefarious, but...
you never know, and...
I'm not comfortable.
Kind of a stab because, like,
-you've done all this with no... -[Tigerlily] Yeah.
-[both] Prenup. -With no prenup.
-Exactly. -[Cruz] None.
[Tigerlily] So, my attorney is drawing up
a post-marital agreement.
And Adnan has no idea.
[Cruz] Wow.
Are you gonna tell him
before or after he gets here?
[Tigerlily] No, I can't wait until after he gets here.
[Shay] Babe...
Why didn't you protect yourself in the beginning?
-Both Cruz and I, we were telling you this, babe. -I know.
[voice shaking] But this is, like, not what I wanted.
Like, I don't... [sobbing]
Like, I don't wanna be like... [sniffles]
keeping everything separate, and, like,
"This is mine. This is ours."
Like, it's so yucky to me.
[Shay] And you don't want to hope for the worst either.
It's just... it's just not supposed to be like this.
[sobbing] Like, everything was so good, and now it's...
so many problems. [sobbing]
I shouldn't have to protect myself from my husband.
You shouldn't have to protect yourself,
but you need to.
[Tigerlily] It's definitely been weighing on me
that I need to tell Adnan
about the post-marital agreement.
I don't feel like Adnan has made me comfortable enough
to move forward without protecting myself,
but I'm nervous about how he'll take it.
It's scary.
And I have no ide what's gonna happen,
and I don't know where we go from here.
[sniffles]
I think this is going to be a very important conversation
-that you should have ASAP. -ASAP.
I think I don't have any choice.
[Sunny speaking]
I was supposed to tell you.
Maybe you have to go your way, I have to go my way.
[Veah] He has to choose between me or you?
Yes, of course.
[Sunny] I don't want to lose my dad. I can't.
I need that man with me.
[mooing]
[clucking]
-[Magda] I'm ready. -Okay. Hades, you behave.
[Magda] Kiss.
Kiss Daddy. Daddy, kiss.
Whoa. Okay, thank you for that.
Bye.
I can imagine having just one house over there,
me, you and our kids.
Am I allowed to kill a pig and eat it?
-[Magda] No. -What do you mean?
What if we have a cow, we wouldn't eat it?
No. Cow will give you milk.
Kitchen will give you...
-[chuckles] -Kitchen/chicken?
[chuckling]
It's the last date in Zakopane, and...
We are going to the mountains to hiking and...
I'm happy to be in a better place with Joey.
[Joe] Let's do it.
[Magda] It wasn't easy to forgive him,
but I think so, we are stronger than ever.
Wow.
I feel like we're almost there.
[Magda] It's just the beginning.
But still, I will feel better
with some more serious kind of commitment.
[Joe] Whoa. This is crazy.
I see sheep.
[Magda] Wow!
Can you tell him I want to be a shepherd. That's why we're doing this.
[Magda chuckles] Okay.
[both in Polish]
[in Polish]
[both conversing in Polish]
[Joe in English] Watch out for sheep [bleep]
[Magda in English] Give him grass. Maybe he will like you.
Oh!
Oh, beautiful, baby!
-I think he likes me. -[Magda] Aw!
Aw!
Let's go.
[shepherd and Magda conversing in Polish]
-[in English] Baby... -[shepherd in Polish]
[Joe in Polish]
[in English] You can tell it's official, like,
-it's right from the source, which I like. -Yeah.
[in Polish]
[Joe in English] Sheep cheese.
Let's sit down here,
and enjoy this nice view.
You gotta sit.
[grunts]
Can you give me my jacket because it's so cold?
It's freezing.
-[Magda] It is... -So, I'm starting to like this cheese,
the more I eat it.
-Do you want bread? -Yeah.
You want a little prosciutto on that bread?
Yeah.
-There you go. -[Magda] Thank you, baby.
Mmm.
So tasty.
These are the hands that just touch the sheep
with flies on its face.
[chuckles softly]
It's a nice place to spend the last day together.
[Magda] Yeah, but I'm really sad
you're leaving tomorrow.
I really worry about...
what's going to happen next.
-[Joe] What does that mean? -It's really scaring me, like,
you know, I trust you and you will...
I don't know what to expect from you.
If you really feel that way I feel...
I do love you, and I want to be with you.
[Magda] I just need something more.
So, I hope so you will show me
your commitment because...
I don't wanna wait that long.
Well, I want you to know
that I am serious about this, [clears throat] and I think...
the best way I can show my intentions are true
and, like, show my level of commitment...
would be...
you know, proposing...
which would be a very probable thing in the very near future,
but...
like, it is important for me, before proposing to someone
that they meet my friends and family.
I wouldn't really feel comfortable
until you did that, 'cause I have thought about it.
So as long as you're still serious about coming to America,
and meeting my friends and family,
we can, uh, do this.
But I need you to trust me that,
you know, that's... that's really what I want to do.
I'm not trying to waste anyone's time.
Are you sure?
I'm sure.
[Magda] I love you. I want to trust you, and...
if everything what you said is true...
I want to come to America and be with you.
-[grunts] -[chuckles]
Of course, I wanted Joey to propose to me in Poland,
but he'll promise me,
and show me he will love me,
so he will propose to me really soon.
We'll apply for this K-1 visa.
I'm... I'm so happy.
I think I'm ready.
Do you think I'm ready?
You have to feel this, not me.
Oh. Yeah, I feel I'm ready.
[Magda] I'm afraid he will change his mind
or I don't know, like...
some... some people
will want him to change his mind.
I don't know. I'm... I'm really scared.
Of course, I'm a person overthinking, but...
I hope so, he will love me the same way
and he will not change his mind.
No way.
I thought that was romantic.
[Magda speaking]
You guys going to get married?
Eventually, yes.
No, I don't think so.
Mmm-mmm.
You should tell me before. You guys should tell me before,
not after that.
I know I did a mistake.
-Yeah. -[Sunny] I was supposed to tell you.
[Shahin speaking]
[Veah] Well...
when Sunny proposed to me,
we talked about that I didn't need to convert.
It's not to work like that.
Talk to me now. Talk to me.
I know our culture doesn't like this,
but I told her, "if you don't want to convert religion,
it's fine. Leave it like that."
Why you say like that?
[Sunny] Because...
[Shahin speaking]
Yeah, I understand that, but...
What "but"?
[Sunny] She's not gonna willing to do that.
[Shahin] Unacceptable.
It's totally wrong.
Totally not good.
If the man is Muslim,
the woman have to follow the man.
People will be... say, "Shame on, Sunny.
What you did is wrong."
It's like a shame of my family.
How are you going to stay with us?
This way? You know that
it's not work like that.
Maybe you have to go your way.
Maybe I have to go my way.
[Veah] So he has to choose between me or you?
Yes, of course.
Papa, she's gonna be with me forever.
Do you know what you're doing?
Hmm.
-[Sunny] I told you this is gonna happen. -[Veah sobbing]
And I told you I needed time to do that.
He's a nice person.
I just have to make him understand.
[Veah sniffles]
[Sunny] This is exactly what I was afraid of.
Growing up, my dad wasn't around,
and it's really take a long time to rebuild the relationship.
So I don't want to lose my dad again.
I can't.
You can come if you want to.
I need that man with me.
[in other language]
[in English] Don't be angry with me.
I did the mistake I did, but...
because I was in...
love with her and she loves me.
Yeah, because when you love, you are blind.
You forget about your parents.
You forget about your father.
We didn't forget about you, though.
Right now, better you don't talk to me.
Talk to Sunny.
[Veah] Can you just explain to him, baby,
that we weren't trying to disrespect him?
I don't know what to say even...
because I know I [bleep] it up.
I didn't mean to disrespect you--
I can't say anything good now.
Leave me alone.
[exhales]
What do we do going forward?
Do you still want to be with me?
That's why I did everything.
I'm feeling horrible that I'm going to be alone by myself.
Veah is going back home...
and my dad kicked me out of his life, you know?
But I'm hoping that, in time,
my dad will forgive us and accept us.
[exhales]
[Niles] Today is not goodbye.
This is just "see you soon."
As soon as I possibly can.
I didn't do as much research on the visa process
as I should have done.
So I'm not really sure how long it will take
for Matilda to get to the United States.
[sobbing]
[upbeat music playing]
[Niles] Okay, lay on it. And I'll--
-When you're coming? -[Niles] That's a good question.
Okay, one, two...
[straining] three!
-[bleeping] -[Matilda groans]
Hold up. We got it.
Mmm... I'm gonna miss you.
I'm gonna miss you more.
You're gonna miss your sex.
I'm gonna miss you... that, the most of all.
Well, second most of all.
I'm gonna miss you first.
Mmm.
[Matilda chuckles]
[Niles] Today, I'm going back to Alabama
as a married man.
I wish I could bring Matilda with me.
If I had one of those shrink rays
that allows her to be carried onto the plane with me
without being noticed, I would totally use it right now.
Don't think that this... that it's gonna be permanent.
Okay? This is not...
Today is not goodbye.
This is just "see you soon."
[Niles] As soon as I possibly can.
-It'll feel like that long, won't it? -[exhales]
You know, I really wasn't planning
on getting married on this trip,
so I didn't do as much research on the visa process
as I probably, honestly, should have done.
I'm not really sure how long it will take
for Matilda to get to the United States.
It could be anywhere from a few months...
It could be years or more.
All I can do right now is focus on my new job
and saving money to take care of her.
I'm gonna miss this.
I know. Squishy, squishy.
[chuckles softly]
[Niles] Okay.
[sighs]
[in Twi]
[Niles] Amen.
Mmm.
-[Matilda in English] Love you. -[Niles] I love you more.
[Matilda speaking]
[sniffles, sobbing]
[Niles] Before I found Matilda,
I thought that I was a man who would never get married.
I would never have a family.
But I never knew what I was missing until I found it.
My life is richer for having her in it.
And I cannot wait for Matilda to come to America,
and we truly start our lives together.
♪♪ If you just call ♪
♪♪ I'm never too far away ♪
♪♪ Never too gone ♪
♪♪ Don't turn away ♪
Okay, so the purple one and that...
and this bag that you have in your hand is mine.
[indistinct conversation]
That's... That's it.
[driver speaking indistinctly]
[Niles] I should probably check in.
Okay.
Right now I'm feeling sad because my baby is leaving me.
[sniffles]
And I'm gonna miss him.
My wish has come true.
Now I am a married woman.
My life has totally changed.
And now it's came together.
[sniffles]
[sobbing]
-I'll see you soon. -[Matilda sobbing]
I'm gonna miss you.
-I'm gonna miss you more. -[Matilda sniffles]
I'm happy when I'm with him.
And now he's leaving me.
Who is...
Who is going to make me happy?
Especially...
his squishy.
[crying]
♪♪ I'll find you In my daydreams ♪
[Niles] I love you more.
Seeing how much Matilda cares about me,
how she's this upset to see me go,
it reminds me that it's okay for me to be who I am,
because someone can love me this much.
I married the most beautiful and most kind woman in the world.
It's a great feeling.
I'll see you soon, okay?
See you soon. Take care, okay?
[Niles] Okay.
-I love you. -I love you more.
[crying]
Always know that I love you.
And...
♪♪ And I'll find you ♪
♪♪ In the stars above ♪
♪♪ When you're miles, miles away ♪
I promise I'm gonna be faithful and loving
and always there for you.
[Magda speaking]
I don't like that you're going to keep
your apartment in Jordan.
You want to have one foot in the US,
and one foot in Jordan.
It makes me uncomfortable.
Hades, are you gonna miss me?
He will.
[Joe] I doubt. He's gonna be happy.
He gets you all to himself.
You're a little jealous guy.
[Magda] I don't want you to leave me.
[Joe] I don't blame you.
[chuckles] Oh, babe.
I'm gonna miss you, Magdalena.
I'm gonna miss you more.
[Joe] Late last night, we got back to Bedzin,
and today I'm leaving Poland.
It's definitely gonna be hard to leave Magda behind.
I mean, going back to speaking on the phone every day
over waking up next to her,
and, you know, going to bed with her every night.
Especially since, I never felt this way
towards someone. I never felt that
I would, like, marry them or see myself having a future with them.
[chuckling]
[sighs]
Do you wanna just teach me how to fold something?
Look how good of a job you're doing.
I already did this so much worse.
This is why I need you, Magda.
Yeah. You need a wife.
I need a sugar mama.
Wrong destination.
[chuckles] Wrong destination?
[Magda] I can't believe it's the last morning.
He will fly in a few hours.
I'm so sad,
and it's just... [sighs]
I can't imagine to be without him.
[Joe speaking]
Aww, thanks, babe.
Wow, you look very hot.
[Magda] Thank you, babe.
Paytas, you gonna be a good boy?
Bye, buddy.
[Joe exclaims]
Aww, right in the lips. I'm gonna miss you.
All right, let's get out of here.
[Joe grunts]
[sighs] I'm gonna miss you, Magda.
[Joe] Aww.
[Magda speaking]
And you will propose to me.
Then you will apply for this visa
and I will come soon.
Yeah, exactly.
I'm gonna miss you driving me everywhere.
[Magda] Aww.
It is time.
[Joe] I don't even know what airline I'm on.
Probably should have looked into that.
All right, Magda.
This is it.
I promise I'm gonna be yours
and faithful and loving
and always there for you.
Promise?
I promise.
You will not change your mind?
I will not change my mind.
We got this.
I don't want you to go.
Aww. I don't want to go.
♪♪ One kiss And my world goes black ♪
♪♪ I guess love's supposed To feel like that... ♪
It's the worst feeling ever
to kiss him and hug him this time.
I don't want to let him go.
So I hope so he...
is really feel the same way like me,
and everything will be
like he said, because...
So everything is
in his hands.
Aww. I don't want to go.
♪♪ You're the song I haven't written yet ♪
♪♪ You're the one I never will forget... ♪
[Joe] It's definitely hard saying goodbye to Magda. I mean,
it sucks to see her cry and I'm definitely gonna miss her,
but there's a good possibility that I'll propose when she comes
to visit me in America.
I'm still not 100% ready,
but it's something that
has to happen if I'm gonna be with the person I love,
so I know I have to follow through.
Aww.
I'll write to you. I'll text you.
Stop.
At the end of the day, I love her.
I feel like I'm better of a person
when I'm with her, so,
there's a very good chance
that there's a proposal in the weather forecast.
It's a little crazy, but it's exciting.
Definitely.
♪♪ 'Cause I've waited My whole life for this... ♪
I love you.
Bye, babe. I'll see you soon.
♪♪ Starting with one kiss ♪
♪♪ I never felt like this ♪
♪♪ And it started With one kiss ♪
♪♪ These two hands Are made for holdin' you ♪
♪♪ Changed my life ♪
♪♪ My whole life In front of my eyes ♪
♪♪ Forever something I would do ♪
♪♪ Ooh ♪
♪♪ And it started With one kiss ♪
[line ringing]
[Vanja] It's been two weeks since Josko ended things,
but I've realized
that I'm not ready to give up on this relationship yet.
You know, I hated the way that everything ended.
And you know that I'm planning to come to Croatia now.
Like, would you even want to see me at this point anymore?
[train honking]
[people cheering]
All right.
I guess we're talking.
It's been about two weeks
since Josko ended things with me.
And after talking to Sanela,
I've realized that I'm not
ready to give up on this relationship yet.
[line ringing]
[Vanja] I am so nervous,
because I don't know where this is going to go.
Is he wanting to talk to just
officially, officially end things?
Or is there going to be a hope
for rekindling things? I don't know.
This could be my only chance to
make things right with him.
[cell phone chimes]
[Vanja] Hi.
So...
how are you?
I'm okay.
I guess I've had better days, had worse days.
[Josko speaking]
Thank you.
It's very good to see you.
Yeah, I just finished dancing here at the restaurant.
You actually, um, came to see the show here
when you were in Orlando, so...
Yeah. So, how's, um,
how's the little kid?
[Josko speaking]
[Vanja] That's nice.
I miss... I miss hearing about your day.
You know, I got so used to our phone calls every day that
this is really hard not to know what you've been up to.
[Josko speaking]
You do?
[Josko speaking]
You know, I hated the way that everything ended
and this was just
very sudden, unexpected.
Yeah. To say the least.
[Vanja] I really wish that you would just
give me an opportunity to hear me out
and for us to talk
instead of you making the decision for both of us.
[Vanja] To say that I don't like children, it's not fair.
But didn't we also talk about changing my dance room
into a kid's room so that
when you guys come, that that would be his place?
I mean, we talked about all of that stuff
and, you know, I was already
getting my mind in a direction of, like,
okay, so this is how we're gonna change things up
so that this can work.
I feel like,
you know, I wasn't given a chance enough to
show you that people can change.
And I never got to meet your son.
And I told you that one of the big fears that I had
is getting close to a kid
and then you and I not working out
and then me losing the child.
Because that's happened to me before and that was just devastating.
It's really sad.
Thank you. That means a lot.
What?
What's the smile for?
[Vanja] It's good to see you, too.
I know it's been hard on both of us
letting each other go.
And you know that I'm planning to come to Croatia now.
The original plan was for me to come and meet your son
and meet your family and spend the whole time with you.
And now, you know, everything's changed.
Like, would you even want to see me at this point anymore?
Or like, what... what... what... Now what?
What do you think?
[Vanja] Okay.
So just let me know then, and I guess we'll talk soon.
All right. Bye.
[exhales]
Wow.
That was a lot.
Despite the fact that we're currently broken up,
I was hoping for a more optimistic,
excited reaction out of him.
But, uh, he seems so hesitant
about seeing me when I'm back in Europe.
I don't even know what to make of it.
The connection is still there,
just as strong and powerful.
So I believe that if,
um, you know, we could meet up in Croatia
and just have a conversation,
things could turn around.
But I don't want to get my hopes up.
I just don't know what to expect from him anymore.
I feel like I'm not
holding my breath for something too much,
um, because the worst thing I could do to myself
is coming with expectations here
and that get put down again.
So, I don't know. I guess it remains to be seen.
[Sunny speaking]
Do you feel like you're choosing the wrong woman?
I fight with everyone.
My dad, my friends, my religion, for her.
[Veah speaking]
She promised me we're gonna be together
and she will be by my side no matter what.
But I'm really scared.
[Sunny] Where's my wifey?
[Veah] I'm right here. I'm coming.
I was brushing my teeth.
I can't believe it's our last morning together.
[Sunny] I wish this morning never gonna go finish.
I'm gonna miss you.
It's sad that I'm going home.
I can't believe that I'm leaving South Africa today.
I'm gonna miss her a lot. I'm gonna miss my woman.
Like, Veah is my fiancee now.
And I'm excited we're gonna plan future together.
[Veah] Me too.
But I feel like we're definitely
in a different spot right now mentally
than we'd want to be before I leave.
I'm sorry that we're in this situation with your dad.
This is just crazy to me and hard for me to
wrap my mind around it.
My parents,
even though we've been through a lot,
even with like their, you know, addiction issues
and stuff like that, they would never just like...
walk out of my life like that and tell me not to call them.
Because they're your parents. That's your, like, blood.
That's what's so weird to me.
But I don't blame him for anything because...
And I didn't even ask him for permission or anything.
I just did it.
But only thing I can hope,
that we can keep try and try to win his heart.
What if he doesn't come around? Then what?
You can't accept, honey, like,
everything have to be so quick and fast.
My family, they have a lot of things to know.
They also worry about me. Am I choosing
the right person or wrong person?
Do you feel like you're choosing the wrong woman?
If I was choosing the wrong woman, I wasn't put
the ring on your finger in the first place.
You promised me
the time I was putting the ring,
you gonna be stand by me,
no matter what situations come in life.
That's what I want from you.
I'll do that. I'll stand by you.
-I love you. -I love you too.
Let's get up.
[Sunny] Let's do it.
[Veah] I feel like it was really selfless of Sunny.
Just to want to be with me,
knowing that I'm not converting
and it's going to lead to a lot of obstacles
for him when it comes to his family.
But I know that he's really struggling with it.
And that worries me for our future.
Right now, I think it's easy for Sunny to choose me,
because I'm here in person.
But when I go back to America,
outsiders can sometimes
get involved in our relationship.
And Sunny is very influenced by them.
Are you okay?
[Sunny] It's so sad that
we don't even know when we're gonna see each other again.
I know. I don't know how long your K1 visa will take.
I'm hoping it'll be quick.
[Sunny] That's what I'm also hoping for.
I'm gonna be alone by myself.
It's okay.
I'm here for you, so...
I definitely think I can be
a supportive fiancee to Sunny.
But I can never fill the void
that he will have from losing his family.
I just hope that love outweighs
and is strong enough to keep us together
until he gets to America.
["Sick & Tired" playing]
Well, this is it.
-Are you okay? -[Sunny] Yeah.
[Veah] It's really hard to leave you right now,
knowing that things aren't good with your dad.
[Veah] You always say that.
I love that you're so hopeful.
I'm here for you, okay?
Okay, Veah.
[sighs] I'm gonna see you soon.
Yes, we'll see each other soon.
I don't know how soon, but...
And...
if we stay focused on our future together,
it'll be less hard, like,
the distance between us.
["Where We Say Goodbye" playing]
I love you. Bye.
It's really painful for me to let someone that you love
going back home.
I feel like the whole entire world is against us.
I fight with everyone.
My dad, my friends, my religion, for her.
I don't know what is my situation with my dad,
but I'm glad I have someone that I care and love,
that make me to feel good.
But I'm really scared
that I don't know what's gonna happen after this.
She promised me we're gonna be together,
and she will be by my side no matter what.
So I'm hoping she will stick to my promises.
[Tigerlily] We need to have
a post-marital agreement.
[Tigerlily] Oh, my goodness.
Things have been really tense with Adnan and I lately.
And then with me being pregnant,
I am struggling
with everything that's going on.
So I definitely need to
talk to Adnan and get to the bottom of all of this.
[sighs]
I'm nervous to bring up
the post-marital agreement,
but he's been making decisions
that put me
in financial danger.
So I just have to do it.
[line ringing]
Hi, baby.
[Adnan speaking]
[Tigerlily] How are you?
What about you? How was your day?
I'm eating now, baby.
I have, like, my pretzels.
[Adnan speaking]
[Tigerlily chuckles]
[Tigerlily laughs]
[sighs]
Well, let's talk about something
a little bit more important.
So, honey,
there's, like, some issues
we need to talk about.
[Adnan] What is it?
All right.
I don't like that you're going to keep
your apartment in Jordan.
Well, this is the problem. You don't like it.
You don't like everything.
[Tigerlily] Why do you have this tone with me right now?
Because I'm not gonna leave my apartment in Jordan.
[Tigerlily] You're moving to the U.S.
You're married.
You have no reason to keep your apartment in Jordan.
But Jordan is my country.
How can I leave Jordan forever?
So, is this just like a little vacation?
Your home isn't with me? Your home is in Jordan?
You are my home and Jordan is my home, too.
I have a family here in Jordan. I can't leave them...
You know what? You can stay in a hotel.
Why do you need to keep an apartment?
I need some place so I can
keep my stuff in some place
and leave it there.
See, this is the problem.
You want to have one foot in the U.S.
and one foot in Jordan.
[Adnan] You want me to leave my apartment,
you want me to leave my country,
you want me to leave my family,
just to be with you.
That's what it means when you marry someone.
You build a life with them.
You don't keep your life in Jordan.
I build my life where I want,
where I like.
[Tigerlily] It makes me feel like
you could just leave me at any time.
If I want to leave you at any time,
I would not get married with you.
Well, it makes me uncomfortable.
-And then another thing is bothering me. -[Adnan groans]
Okay, so I'm gonna explain to you
why this is bothering me.
Thaer, because he has
the power of attorney to be you,
he can take our money,
keep it in Jordan,
you go back to Jordan with him
in your apartment that you would like to keep in Jordan,
and then I'm left
with the children and no money.
[Adnan speaking]
[Tigerlily] When you do these weird things,
this is where my mind goes.
I worry about that.
I just want you
to take back the power of attorney.
[Adnan] I won't...
Here in Jordan, I am successful.
I have my own home.
I have my own car. I have my own business.
He just will helping me.
Because I trust him. He's my brother.
[Tigerlily] So I think that
if you're not going to change,
then we just need to have
a post-marital agreement.
[Tigerlily] Like, keep everything separate.
I am your husband.
You should trust me if I decide anything to do.
I can't because you're doing shady things
that make me question things.
So I'm going to have my attorney
finish drafting this document,
and I will send it to you.
[laptop beeps]
[Tigerlily sniffles]
I mean, this is like what I was afraid of.
It's not supposed to be like this.
This is supposed to be the perfect marriage.
And this isn't.
I want the Adnan that I married.
The Adnan that I fell in love with.
I want that Adnan to come to the U.S.
Not this other one that I don't even know.
It's just so hurtful that Adnan
is just so easily willing
to throw all this away.
And it's scary.
I don't want to be raising
a baby by myself.
I have no idea what's gonna happen,
and I don't know where we go from here.
I don't know. I don't know.
[Shaun] Next time on 90 Day Fiance: Before the 90 Days
The Couples Tell All...
I can see where she wants to downplay it a little bit.
And when [bleep] got hot,
I'm gonna kiss the stomach, hand in the face, whoa.
I said, "What the hell?"
Then she put her finger on my nose
and said, "I have a boyfriend."
Whoa.
Why is she wearing lingerie for you if she has a boyfriend?
Ask her that. Ask her that.
[Shaun] Tigerlily,
we saw Adnan
get very angry when you confronted him
about his intent to make his brother Thaer
power of attorney.
That's not okay.
If I was in her position, I would want to do
everything in my power to protect what I have.
[Faith speaking]
'Cause you know what's best for everyone else.
[Shaun] When you went to Croatia,
you two never kissed?
No.
-What? -Do you have a girlfriend?
You know, it comes off like
you're worried about how it's gonna look for someone else.
-Boom. -[Bozo] Guys, deepest apologies.
I will have to leave this conversation.
-[Vanja] No, no, no, no, no. -[Bozo] Gotta go.
-Look at this. -[Bozo] Apologies, guys.
-This is what I've been dealing with. -What?
[Adnan] Sunny, I've seen you having sex
before getting married.
That's right or not?
But if you don't want to be a strict Muslim,
you don't have to be a strict Muslim.
No, no, no, no, no.
[Sunny] Adnan! Veah, hold on.
So, Loren, have you had sex with anybody else?
During the one week we were apart, I did have sex.
-[Vanja] Oh. -With the girl that gave me gonorrhea.
[Joe] You went back to the girl that gave you gonorrhea?
[Shaun laughing]
You went back to her?
Loren.
[Adnan speaking]
That was not cool at all.
Do you know what people down south do
to people who do that kind of stuff?
Niles, Niles, Niles, step back.